Porn Kills Love Is Bullshit

I was riding along in the bus looking up at a strange sign, and when I read it, I rolled my eyes and laughed a bit. One of the wonderful things I learned in college is how to read and interpret research. Any research is vetted and needs to have a solid base of well-supported and fact based information. There is a type of research study, though called, “exploratory research,” but it is usually regarded with less respect, because it is only there to motivate further examination. I do not know of any research that has been done that can prove that porn murders love, and not simply because in my last relationship, we loved watching porn together, and it made our sex life better, but because I am madly in love with someone, and we both enjoy porn. My education has taught me that sex is healthy, and I like to compare porn to L.G.B.T.Q. rights, because what they say is that no one has the right to tell us whom to fuck. In addition, polyamory has long been considered the choice of many. I, also suspect that those who use fear to suggest that watching porn amounts to the destruction of love, family, and any other thing have never either seen porn, or just do not like it. That does not mean, they are correct when they make hyperbolic statements, like porn kills love. We are naturally inclined to look at other people, find others attractive, and the notion that this is somehow sinful, wrong, or amoral has no basis in reality. Marriage, chastity, and fidelity represent rigid conformity to religious tradition and commonly held beliefs that this is the only socially acceptable form of relationship. While a lot of people hold fast to those traditions, though, not only do many of us see porn as innocuous and not as a direct threat to a relationship, but we feel perfectly comfortable fantasizing about others and even while we are fucking our partners. I do this a lot. I would not talk about this unless I felt strongly that using a pejorative phrase as this will only motivate censorship, and if they are going to go there, I have a lot to say about that. Not only is censorship extremely harmful, but it does not prevent porn (a non violent form of expression (and yes, I include B.D.S.M.)) or sex among and between sex workers and just about everyone from fucking. Censorship, though is no small thing. Censorship does not encourage rape survivors to discuss their abuses and assaults, censorship inhibits political freedom and encourages the decimation of art programs and it emboldens misplaced hatred of comedians and any performer and is only anti-intellectual. We cannot decide that only one form of art should exist, one form of political beliefs should exist, or that we should only fuck one person for our entire lifetimes. I am not obligated by the government to fuck only who the government wants me to fuck. I am not a Christian, because I have the right not to be, and I do not rely on some tradition that teaches me that I must blindly obey one set of rules. As an adult, I get to choose with whom and how I fuck. The hyperbole and false statements made about porn, freedom of expression, and how I should live amount to pap. They are scare tactics whose only goal could mean certain destruction of our First Amendment Rights to live as we may in a civilized country. I implore those who merely ignore the attacks made on porn (especially Hollywood) to stand up for this form of art in the name of all of our rights.