Sex Positive Feminism is a relatively new concept, even though Feminism is not. The new feminists are better educated, less inhibited, and more willing to risk their bodies and minds to stand up for what they believe in. The reason I chose to be a Sex Positive Feminist is because I knew, instinctively, that sex is healthy, fun, and enjoyable if you do it right, and that extremism and fear are the wrong things to associate with sex between consenting adults. It could be that H.I.V. and its threat has motivated some women and others to rail against pornography and online sex, but it really does amount to fear mongering and has little to do with the reality that sex is good for you. In a modern world, we value honesty, facts, and not old wives tales or myth. It runs counter to paranoia, and some still find it easier to tell half truths and encourage others to indulge their hatred, because they simply cannot or will not risk their social group, old beliefs, and replace them with new ideas and approaches. I acknowledge that change is difficult, but at some point, you need to do it, whether you feel like it or not. Embracing new ideas and philosophies is the sign of a mature mind and society. It is a sign that we are evolving. Staying comfortable in the past and relying on things that enable you to stay stuck in an old mindset only prevents you from moving forward with your life and opening up your mind. If you do it, though, you may be considered intolerant, and these days, we prefer tolerance to the inverse.
As an independent woman, I choose to embrace my ideas about modern sexuality and sex, in order to further my advancement and education. If I, instead decide that I can simply watch people stand up for what they believe in, while I only watch and listen, then I feel as if I am not really living. I was raised to challenge myself, not to sit idly by while others do the work. It is not good enough for me to stay safe and take no risk. This is why I love what I do. I used my mind and body to stand up for what I believe in, and it is not up to anyone else to dictate what I do or how I think. And even though I am relatively new to this field, I feel comfortable with what I am doing, because it fits with how I think. I, genuinely believe that being positive about sex and challenging my limitations with regard to my disability is a better way to become an adult than towing a political line I distrust and cannot rely on, because it is unhealthy or outdated in its assertions and needs to be discarded. So, keep watching as I take on my life as an independent woman who loves thinking outside the box. Watch out, baby! Here I come.